The Starting Point: That Awkward Connection Request
Okay, so I wanted to connect with Cynthia Williams on LinkedIn. Sounds simple, right? But man, staring at that blank connection request box… that’s where most folks freeze. We’ve all been there. Typing some generic “I’d like to join your network” garbage? Nah. Not today. My goal was real – actually get her to hit ‘Accept’ and maybe even chat someday.
Step 1: Ditch the Default Button Mash
First thing? DO NOT hit “Connect” without adding a note. Seriously, that lazy button click? It’s basically digital litter. Instead, I clicked “Add a note” right there on her profile. Boom – instant advantage over 90% of other requests she gets.
Step 2: The 3-Second Profile Stalk
Didn’t need a deep dive. Just scrolled her profile super quick looking for:
- Something recent: Saw a post she shared about sustainable supply chains yesterday.
- Something specific: Noticed she used the phrase “data-driven strategies” in her bio headline.
- Something genuine: No fake fluff. Actual stuff I found slightly interesting.
This wasn’t research – just glancing to find a real human hook.
Step 3: Writing the Actual Message
Kept it stupid simple and human. Went for this formula:
- Line 1: State why you care RIGHT NOW. Wrote: “Hey Cynthia – saw your post on supply chain data yesterday and really liked that take on regional sourcing.”
- Line 2: Explain why connecting makes sense. Added: “I’m also knee-deep in scaling operations tech (weird times, right?) and respect your approach.” (My profile backs this up).
- Line 3: Zero-pressure exit. Finished with: “No need to reply – just wanted to connect and follow your insights!”
Big win? No cheesy compliments. No begging. No demand for her time.
Step 4: The Click & Forget
Hit send. Closed LinkedIn. Seriously. Didn’t refresh obsessively for 3 days. This isn’t instant noodles – genuine networking needs simmering time.
Results? Better Than Expected
Checked 48 hours later? Accepted. Not just that – she actually LIKED the message! Solid proof her “see notifications” setting was on. Didn’t slide into DMs immediately. Just let the connection breathe. Mission accomplished: My network got stronger without being pushy.
Lesson learned? Treating profiles like human beings > spray-and-pray connecting. Less awkward for everyone. Feels way better too.
